Gay Advocates Assail ‘My Husband’s Not Gay’
SALT LAKE CITY (AP) — Preston “Pret” Dahlgren has led what might seem like a picture-perfect Mormon life: He met his high school sweetheart in Sunday school as a teenager, completed his mission and married her. He is active in the church and the proud father of two young daughters.
Dahlgren also is attracted to men.
His story is the subject of a new TV show called “My Husband’s Not Gay,” which gay-rights advocacy groups are calling irresponsible and dangerous. They want the TLC cable network to pull the plug on the program before it airs Sunday.
Dahlgren and another Mormon man from Utah featured in the show say they’re happy in their marriages, and they hope the program shows gives stories like theirs a foothold in the conversation about sexuality.
Dahlgren said he’s known he was attracted to men since he was about 12 years old, but he also always wanted the kind of family he grew up in: a father, mother and children.
“There are a lot of stories out there, and this just isn’t one of them,” Preston Dahlgren, 32, said in an interview with The Associated Press this week.
The gay rights group GLAAD, however, says the show sends the wrong message and is a sad reminder of so-called gay conversion therapy, often faith-based efforts designed to change sexual orientation that can be emotionally scarring. New Jersey and California in 2013 banned therapists from practicing gay conversion therapy on children and teenagers. The American Medical Association and the American Psychological Association do not support the therapy.
“No one can change who they love, and, more importantly, no one should have to,” GLAAD president Sarah Kate Ellis said in a statement. “By investing in this dangerous programming, TLC is putting countless young LGBT people in harm’s way.”
The organization pointed to a change.org petition asking TLC to cancel the show that so far has gathered more than 80,000 signatures. Responding to GLAAD, the network says it will tell compelling stories about different ways of life, and the four men on the hourlong show speak only for themselves.
Jeff Bennion, 44, met his wife, Tanya, more than 13 years ago after he had dated men. He told her he was attracted to men after they’d been dating for about a year and a half.
“I was devastated because I didn’t know what that meant for me,” said Tanya Bennion, 42. She worried that he’d cheat on her with a friend but said the couple’s strong connection helped her work through her questions.
Megan Dahlgren says her marriage remains strong, including the physical aspects of their relationship. “We do have a happy, healthy sex life,” she said.
Dahlgren and Bennion both said their upbringing in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints was a big part of why they wanted to remain in a husband-and-wife relationship.
“I would say it was part of my decision early on, espec
Church spokesman Eric Hawkins said in a statement Tuesday that marriage is deeply personal.
“While the church does not promote marriage as a treatment method for same-sex attraction, couples who are trying to be lovingly supportive of each other while being true to their religious convictions deserve our support and respect,” Hawkins said.
Jeff Bennion said he would be horrified if a parent told a gay child that they should be more like one of the men on the show.
“That’s not anything that I would support or agree with,” he said.
But Bennion said that he’s happy with his wife and their 6-year-old son. “I can’t believe how lucky I am,” he said.
“My Husband’s Not Gay” is not the only show about people from Utah in unusual marriages. TLC also airs the shows “Sister Wives” and “My Five Wives” about polygamous unions.
y, and a big influencer of that,” Dahlgren said. “It certainly helped guide me toward where I’m at today, no doubt about it.”